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Keep Yourself Composed When You Are About To Lose It, It Will Help You Succeed!

According to the Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, composure defined = a calmness or repose especially of mind, bearing, or appearance: self-possession.



Would you consider composure as a desired characteristic? At a job interview would you mention the ability to keep composure under stress a strength. I think it is one of the most under-rated desired trait or characteristic. Countless times I’ve wished I would have kept it together and not lost it (total ape sh*t lost it). But sigh I digress. I don’t know if you could relate but I wish I could have turned back the clock many of times and said what I’ve wanted to say better if I just hadn’t lost my composure. If only I could have kept it together long enough I could have articulated what I needed to say better. Perhaps I would have been taken more seriously and not appeared as an emotional wreck. Perhaps I would have been able to prove the point I needed to make all along and just wasn’t able to because I just couldn’t keep my composure. Funny thing is literally 5 minutes ago I walked away from the computer and almost lost it because of a work-related issue. However, I walked back to my desk and saw this post open which I wanted so carefully to make my point on. So deep breath kiddo… I’m practicing how to keep my composure.
We are human and sometimes we joke “oh boy that one has a temper on her”. Or “she is gonna lose it, straight lose it when she finds out xyz”. As an adult I’ve gained a new take on life, one in which I rely on God and less in the pantheistic ways I once was accustomed to.

I would like to share something with you which I would tell anyone of my dear ones. It’s okay to be upset/hurt/angry etc. We were made to feel all these ways. Be true to who you are because you know how to help yourself the best. Take a moment to be present in these feelings because it’s important to interpret and work through these emotions to really move on and keep your composure. And it’s okay to have these moments of self-loss but it’s also important to center again.

There is a wealth of information available on how to effectively keep your composure from a business standpoint. I’ve included link to an article named 7 Ways Leaders Maintain Their Composure In Difficult Times. I wish you success in trying to keep composure or better compose yourself.

A YouTube Video below on composure will give you something to think about and may also motivate you to keep your composure during times when circumstances may tempt you, not to.

Here is a little pact I’ve made with myself and I hope it may also inspire you.

Dear Past Self – I wish I could have kept better composure but I forgive myself because it was in these moments that I learned the value of keeping it together, not only for myself but for all around me.

Dear Present Self – I promise to work on keeping composure, given what I’ve learned be more aware during the moments.

Dear Future Self – I promise to be committed to keeping composure and be more reflective on moments when I wish I could have been more composed. I hope you can look back and feel I tried to work on this characteristic.

This article is written by our guest contributor – GW4



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Experiential Enneagram practices to embody your potential

The Enneagram is far more than just a tool for understanding your personality type…

In fact, it’s one of the world’s most influential psychological and spiritual typing systems — one that has the capacity to accelerate your personal growth and spiritual evolution.

And there’s no one better to guide you in essential practices which activate the transformative power of of the Enneagram — so you can embody your potential — than Jessica Dibb.

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On Wednesday, September 28, this respected consciousness teacher, breathwork trainer and Enneagram “depth teacher” is presenting a FREE event hosted by the Shift Network: The Experiential Enneagram: 3 Practices for Opening to More Love, Wisdom & Presence.

Learn more and secure your place for this important event here

In the Experiential Enneagram, you’ll learn how experiential Enneagram practices can help liberate you from the limitations of your “type” and infuse the essential qualities of love, wisdom, and presence into your daily life.

In this free event, Jessica will share:

• Insights into how the nine domains of Enneagram can help you expand your personal growth, human potential and spiritual development
• An easy practice for actualizing more loving kindness and compassion to all
• A new orientation to wisdom that is tri-centered — somatic, heart, and cognitive — resulting in more accurate guidance
• Shifts that allow you to become “fearlessly present” by daring to contact your full power in each moment

We hope you’ll join us for this illuminating hour-long free event!
When you register for The Experiential Enneagram: 3 Practices for Opening to More Love, Wisdom & Presence — featuring renowned teacher Jessica Dibb — you’ll also receive the audio recording of the event.



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Smile Breaks The Communication Barriers

When you smile at someone when you meet even though you met them first time or during a conversation they unconsciously smile back at you. When they smile at you they feel happy about it. That is a good positive feeling and it will facilitate your conversation in a positive way. That is good for achieving whatever your goal is.

So smile to greet the people if you are in an unknown environment and during conversation with the people you don’t know that will help you create a positive atmosphere, which will be conducive to success in whatever your goal may be.

A YouTube video – “The hidden power of smiling” by Ron Gutman gives effects of smile:


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Leave A strong First Impression

People like you or not will depend upon what kind of first impression you give to that person. Once the first impression is created in anyone’s mind then they keep justifying their first impression of you. Though it may sound devious if you understand your whole conversation is based on the first impression, you can easily create easily great first impression so that your conversation helps you to succeed in your goals.

Following points helps you create a good first impression:

• Positive body language.
• Good posture during conversation.
• Smiling.
• Firm handshake.
• Positioning of your shoulders.
• Eye contact.
• Tone of your voice.
• What you do with hands and feet.
• Enthusiasm you show when you meet.
• Lively shine in eyes.

All these factors and many more are helpful in creating good first impression which will go long way in helping you succeed in your goals

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A YouTube video – “5 tips To Make a Killer First Impression – Personality Development & English lessons by Niharika” gives some hints about making first good impression:


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Use Positive Body Language

Be aware of your body language when you are in touch with other people, especially they can help or hinder your success. Pay attention to your expressions, gestures and tone of voice. People are drawn like ants to sugar with interpreting of wrong body language. Positive body language can make a big difference in your success.

Kind of positive body language examples you should consider in your conversation with others are:

• An enthusiastic tone of your voice.
• Positive eye contact
• Positioning of shoulders.
• Movement of hands and feet.
• Uncrossing of arms.
• Positioning of legs.
• Leaning towards the person who is speaking.

These hints should help you maintain a positive body language in your conversation and make the outcome of it very positive.

A YouTube video – “Body Language Do’s & Don’ts – Good Manners.” by Howcast, have some good hints about body language:

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Be Consistent

When dealing with other people, nobody likes surprises. People want to deal with persons based on their experience. Everyone wants to know in advance how you will behave under the similar circumstances. They want to know who they are dealing with and what kind of response they can expect. To be consistent you must be reliable and make sure your response does not depend upon your mood.

So to be likeable and increase your chances of succeeding in whatever you doing, I may suggest the following:

Be clear about your policy how you are going to deal with other people.
Be consistent and follow that policy to the letter.
• People should be able to gauze what they can expect from you regardless of who they are.
Be fair in dealing with the people.
• Make people feel that this is what they can expect and get in dealing with you regardless of your personal mood or circumstances.

It is my sincere opinion that if the people know that you are consistent and can expect certain response from regardless of fact what your mood, circumstances, or who you are dealing with, they will respect you, like you and will be willing to deal with you with confidence. That cements you success with those people.

A YouTube video – “Consistency & Flow – Motivational Video” – enumerates how consistency is cornerstone to your success:

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Don’t Be Desperate To Seek Attention

When you speak with confidence, precise and friendly manner, people are more attentive and convincible by what you say than if you try to show them how important you are. All you need is to be considerate and friendly to win people and be likeable. People eventually become irresponsive to those who are desperate for attention. You need not have an extrovert personality to be liked by the people. People catch up very quickly as to what you are and who you are. They are more attracted to right attitude than how many people or what kind of people you know.

To get a sincere attention of the people here are my suggestion what you should do:

Don’t look desperate to get attention.
Be concise, friendly and considerate in what you are saying.
• When someone recognize you don’t sing your song to get more attention that comes out as a desperate attempt to get attention.
Give a sincere, deserving and openhearted credit to other people for your success.
Be genuine when you others credit in your success; people will catch on to your sincerity and will take you as a humble and appreciative personality. These are two cornerstone pillars on which will be based your likeability.

Once people start liking you based on your sincerity and genuine desire to serve them they will open to you. Then and only then your popularity, likeability and success will soar.

A YouTube video – “Ask Shallon: Are You Acting Desperate? How not to look CRAZY” by Shallon Lester explains how girl should not act desperate when trying to get attention of a guy:

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Judge The Situation But Don’t Be Judgmental

No one likes the people with the preconceived ideas. People interact more openly with open minded people. No person will like a conversation with people who already formed an opinion without listening to whole conversation. If you don’t listen to them, why they should listen to you? This takes you nowhere in conversation.

This is my suggestion:

Be an open minded. It makes you more approachable and interesting to talk.
Don’t preconceive an opinion on the subject before listening and discerning on what others have to say.
• Learn to see the world through other people’s eyes.
• You don’t have to believe them.
• You don’t have to condone their behavior.
• It simply means that you delay your judgment long enough to fully understand what they are conveying.
Understand what is making them tick.
• That is the only way you can let them be what they are.
• Then you can deal with them as they are.

If you can bring yourself to understand them in that depth then only you can take the best benefit out of that discussion. So keep an open mind. That is what will help you succeed.

A YouTube video – “Judging others is Dangerous: Powerful Story – Video – Don’t Jump to Conclusions.” Gives good view on being judgmental:


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Ask Questions

Lot of people are so much focused that forget to listen what the other person is saying, instead they concentrated on what they are going to say next and what will be effect of what other person had said on them. They hear words loud and clear but they are not able to comprehend what is being said to them.

There is simple way to avoid all this – “ask questions.” People like to know that you are listening and clarification questions indicate to them that you are listening attentively. You will be amazed that how much appreciation you will gain by doing so. People will know that you care about their conversation and will respect you for it.

A good healthy conversation will help you to be a success magnet.

A YouTube video – “Entrepreneurial Selling: Art of Conversation” by Kaufman Founders School gives good basis of conversation:


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Be Genuine In Dealing With Other People

No One likes fake people. People gravitate towards genuine people because they know they can trust them. If you don’t know anyone well enough, it is difficult to trust them or even like them. You have to know who they are and how they feel about the various issues in their life before you start liking and trust them. If you are not genuine in the way you conduct yourself it will be not be possible for others to like you or trust you.

Paying attention to what drives you and what makes you happy can project you as a likeable person. If you have to make choices so that people can like you, it will not be effective way to create trust.

A YouTube Video – “How To Build Trust – Build Trust.” By BigVision Shows Gives you some hints about creating trust:


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